A funeral wake is a time-honored tradition that allows family, friends, and associates to gather, reflect, and pay their final respects to a loved one who has passed. It is a moment of comfort and connection that helps with the grieving process by bringing people together to honor cherished memories and celebrate a life well-lived.
Planning a funeral wake can be overwhelming, especially during an emotional time. Meticulous and thorough planning can make the wake meaningful and memorable. Below is information to guide you through the planning:
Funeral Wake – The Structure
A funeral wake is a ceremony that allows family and friends to come together to mourn and honor the life of the deceased. The structure of the wake varies based on cultural and personal preferences, but would often include:
- Viewing of the body
- Sharing stories and memories
- Performing rituals and prayers
A funeral wake is an intimate event, however it is also a flexible event. In Kuala Lumpur and Selangor, a funeral wake spreads over 3 days and 2 nights.
Cultural and Religious Perspectives on Funeral Wake
Funeral wakes hold unique meanings across various cultures and religions. In Malaysian Chinese communities, wakes often last multiple days, featuring incense, chanting, and offerings to guide the deceased to the afterlife. For Christian wakes, it often involves prayers, hymns, and the recitation of rosaries, particularly in Catholic traditions.
Key Steps in Planning a Funeral Wake
#1 Selecting a Venue
The venue sets the tone for the funeral wake and should be selected based on the family’s preferences, the expected number of attendees, and cultural or religious requirements. Common options:
- Homes: A personal and intimate setting, especially for smaller gatherings.
- Funeral Parlours: Professional facilities that provide a serene environment and support services.
- Community Centers: Ideal for larger gatherings or when a neutral location is preferred.
When selecting a venue, consider accessibility for guests, parking availability, and the amenities provided.
#2 Setting a Date and Time
The timing of the wake often depends on cultural practices and logistical considerations. Some cultures, such as Malaysian Chinese traditions, prefer multi-day wakes, while others may hold a single-day event. Ensure the date allows enough time to:
- Notify attendees.
- Coordinate with other ceremonies, such as the funeral or burial.
Evening wakes are common, as they accommodate working guests and allow for a more reflective atmosphere.
#3 Inviting Guests
It is essential to inform family, friends, and acquaintances about the wake. Here’s how you can effectively invite guests:
- Phone Calls or Messages: A personal approach for close friends and family.
- Obituary Announcements: Include details in printed or online obituaries.
- Social Media or Messaging Apps: Convenient for notifying larger groups quickly.
Provide clear details about the date, time, venue, and any specific requests, such as attire or contributions.
#4 Coordinating with a Funeral Service Provider
Engaging a professional funeral service provider can greatly simplify the planning process. When you engage us (Nirvana) as the funeral service provider, we will be able to assist you in:
- Venue preparation & coordination for funeral wakes
- Tradition, culture & ritual coordination (according to religion and family preferences)
- Embalming and body preparation for viewings.
- Transportation of the deceased.
- Advisory and assistance
With over 30 years of experience in the bereavement industry, Nirvana has the expertise and experience in handling funeral wakes that align with major cultural or religious needs.
#5 Funeral Wake Coordination
There are many areas within a funeral wake that require coordination. If you are engaging Nirvana, we will assist in the coordination of the funeral wake, so you and your family can have a worry-free funeral service.
- Ceremony and rituals
- Eulogies and speeches
- Catering and refreshments
- Decoration and set up
- Manpower
#6 Preparing the Necessary Documents
You will also need to secure:
- A death certificate.
- Permits for burial or cremation.
- Any documentation required by the chosen venue.
If you engage Nirvana, we can provide the necessary advisory and assistance to obtain the necessary paperwork to ensure compliance with local regulations.
Honoring Memories Through a Thoughtful Funeral Wake
A funeral wake is more than just a tradition – it is a way to honor the life and legacy of a loved one while providing a space for family and friends to come together in support and remembrance. To plan a wake requires time, resources and thoughtful planning – hence we can assist you in creating a memorable and respectful funeral wake.
With over 30 years of experience in the bereavement industry, we are able to provide you with advisory, assistance and all the necessary coordination to conduct a funeral wake for your bereaved loved one. Whether you need to arrange a funeral service/wake immediately or gathering information for pre-planning, speak to us today – we would be happy to extend our assistance.